“Kill All the Lawyers” — William Shakespeare, Henry VI, Part 2, Act IV, Scene 2
The widespread condemnation of one San Diego custody evaluator probably won’t end until he’s dead. Hopefully sooner rather than later.
Poor man. He’s been proven to have falsified his resume, performed work for San Diego family courts without qualifications, defrauded clients by unscrupulous conflict-inducement, over-billed clients for millions of dollars, breached contracts with parents–costing tens of thousands of dollars in damages–harmed children and their parents by dragging out “simple” mediations for years, demanded and accepted bribes, extorted parents in his care with threats of retaliation by fabricating evidence, refusing to accept evidence of child abuse and domestic violence, made false reports to CPS, broken virtually every promise he’s made, and on, and on, and on. Dozens of his former clients condemn the man as a sociopathological fraud. Yet Doyne is used by San Diego courts and divorce lawyers? Disgraceful.
Parents–BEWARE of this man in the cesspool of the divorce industry-your future, your child’s future, and perhaps even your life and the lives of those you love is at risk.
Bottom Line: AVOID LIKE HE IS THE PLAGUE, BECAUSE HE IS.
Custody evaluators make enormous fortunes tying up the lives of families and children for years. They’re unregulated in a highly controversial area for which there are no real professional standards and all related professional boards (American Psychological Association, etc.) won’t have anything to do with them. In short, they’re bastard children of the the sciences they affiliate.
So, please feel free to post your detailed reviews/comments of Dr. Stephen Doyne and any other child custody evaluator–but please be sure to make suggestions to parents going through the process–how can they benefit from the experience of those of us who’ve been through it? What advice can you leave for others?
Dr. Stephen Doyne–Parent Friend, Until His Lies Unravel. Again, and again, and again….
Lot of bad reviews for this guy all over the net, and a lot of controversy about why. I’ve been in the middle of several discussions
about the guy and have picked up a few useful observations that might help you sort out what’s true, what’s false, and why he’s so controversial.
Doyne’s M.O. “I’m a Therapist” becomes “I’m An Advocate” becomes “I’m a Judge” becomes “I’m a Fraud”
Fair enough—sounds rational in this context I agree. However, in divorce setting, “Finding the problem” is far more tricky, and even dangerous. Fact is, by the time people get to his office they’ve already been through Hell and are as likely to just kill the other person as put in the effort to solve the many problems Doyne can “find” and “help you fix.” In that context, his role as “judge and jury” for problem identification and solution is likely to result in exactly the dynamic he creates—hostility and accusation in hopes of (in his own words) “winning” custody by damning the “opponent” spouse.
I’m Always Right. And Here’s My Bill
Whether Doyne truly believes his “clients” actually have problems or not is irrelevant to a profitable practice—as long as both clients are convinced (or deluded, or coerced) into believing they do (or at least one does and the other is too frightened to bail out). Abundant criticism in his own field shows that custody evaluations have little scientific foundation, couldn’t’ be admitted in a court applying the rule of law, and they are largely fraudulent. Does he care? Probably, so long as he’s paid to sit around and you’re stupid enough to keep paying him to listen (when probably everybody else is sick of hearing your opinions about how everyone but you—but particularly your ex—is responsible for your unhappiness).
Doyne’s role, as he sees it, is to be a “savior” of the child, against one or both parents. He utilizes tight controls, harsh, unnatural discipline on parents, absurd schedules, and tons of “homework” (including his vast network of related “services”) for one or both ”problem” parents. In other words, he starts with the assumption that one or both are problems, and need lots of work. His job is to find “problems” (real or otherwise), prepare complicated (and expensive) solutions, tie one or both parents to the program with threats of custody swings, pound them with his “bag of tricks,” and sit back to send bills and watch ‘em sweat. Unless you’re already stellar parents (in which case you wouldn’t be here) you’re likely to end up as fodder for Doyne’s very expensive, useless–indeed harmful–process. If either or both of you are fault-finding, negative, projecting, exaggerating liars, or manipulative, Doyne’s going to retire early on your child’s college fund.
The Kids Are Worth Giving All Your Money to Me–Right? NO? What are You, a Bad Parent?
Remember: “Man/Woman” problems have been around at least since the human fall from grace—you’re not the first to find that mate of yours to be a pain. The way out is simple: “To err is human, to forgive, divine.”